Sunday, February 19, 2012

Carrots, Eggs and Coffee Beans

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to boil. In the first she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil, without saying a word.

In about 20 minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter, she asked, "Tell me? What do you see?"

"Carrots, eggs, and coffee," she replied.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The mother then asked the daughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma.

The daughter then asked, "What does it mean, mother?"

Her mother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.

"Which are you?" she asked her daughter. "When adversity knocks on your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?"

Think of this: Which am I? Am I the carrot that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a breakup, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff spirit and hardened heart?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and trials are their greatest, do you elevate yourself to another level? How do you handle adversity?

Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

My mother sent me this parable in an email shortly after I told her my ex wanted a divorce. I found it very powerful. So to motivate myself not to become either a carrot or an egg, I set some small bowls of coffee beans in a couple of places where I can see them often; my bathroom counter, and my desk in my office. When I am feeling like things are getting to me, I just go to one of the bowls to remind myself how strong I can be.

Or I just go to Starbucks.

6 comments:

  1. I love this parable! Wonderful! A new perspective on coffee (one of my favorite things). Thanks!!

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    1. I think life is all about perspective on so many levels. I'm glad you liked it! Thank you for reading and commenting!

      Jeff

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  2. I've never heard of this and just LOVED it! Thanks for sharing it.

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    1. My pleasure, and thank you for taking the time to read and comment!

      Jeff

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  3. This is fantastic! A parable? I haven't heard that word in ages, it seems. Well, what a great way to be reintroduced to it. I also don't know why I haven't seen your blog yet. You know, you add followers to Twitter, but never think to click the link to their blogs or websites. P.S. 6th graders? I feel your pain. I work in "special day" classes with 6 through 8. :) You're on my blog roll now. ;)

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    1. Sean,
      Thank you for taking the time to read and to comment. I appreciate both and your kind words. I will also check out your blog as well. I feel your pain as well, working in special day classes! :)

      Thanks,
      Jeff

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