Brainwashed 2

I recently posted my thoughts on our being brainwashed by those oh-so-lovely fairy tales most of us grew up with.

But, Hollywood has done its part, too.

All those very romantic movies where someone-meets-someone, they have an instant connection and they live happily ever after. Or maybe they’re star-crossed, or overcome some enormous obstacles to be together or get back together. Once they finally do get together, it’s all so hunky dory. It’s perfect. Beautiful, blissful.

Yeah, right.

I’m not saying we don’t have a soulmate somewhere out there underneath that pale moonlight.

I’m saying we might have many.

WTF? 

Let me explain.

I believe we are spiritual beings on this planet having very human experiences. Our soul incarnated into this life from some other plane where we hung out with other souls. Maybe we grabbed a mocha or a chai at the SoulStarbucks and chilled a bit. We made soul friends. We became Best Soul Friends Forever, or BSFFs. We, or our souls did, decided what lessons we needed to continue our spiritual growth.

We made agreements with our BSFFs, “Will you help me with learning to let go of what no longer serves me?” 

“Yes, If you’ll help me with speaking my truth?”

“Agreed.” We then shook our soul hands on that. Kind of like a contract. With a termination date. Sort of. Just like the Magical Contract signed by the Little Mermaid and the Sea Witch, it can’t be broken.

We then made arrangements with other BSFFs for other lessons and established other contracts.

Then we incarnated. At different times, in different places.

As humans we don’t recall those contracts, but our souls do. When the time is right to fulfill our part of the deal, our souls arrange for it to happen. We can show up in any capacity; lover, friend, family member, neighbor, etc., all depending on the type of lesson to be learned. The cast can be varied and is often diverse. And once the contract has been fulfilled by both parties, the soulmates depart. Usually. Sometimes they might stick around, in case residual or remedial help is needed. But, once the lesson has been mastered or the terms of the contract have been met, it’s hasta la vista, baby.

Let’s also explore this deeper by now looking at the word structure. 'Soulmate' is a compound word made up of 'Soul' + ‘Mate'.  The word 'mate' has two meanings; 1) to procreate, and 2) a friend or companion. As souls are believed to be genderless that would leave them unable to procreate thereby eliminating the first definition. Therefore, a ‘soulmate’ is a ‘friend or companion’ for your soul. 

So, it appears we may have been misconstruing the terms ‘soulmate’ and ‘life partner.’  

A soulmate relationship can be intense, almost from the get go. It can be filled with pain and a lot of emotion as the lessons are usually deep. If the soulmate relationship is romantic, it usually ends with a very broken heart.

Life partners have shared interests, and share a larger amount of trust. The relationship is less intense, often very emotional but very dynamic. I’m not suggesting we don’t learn from life partners, but we learn on a more gradual, long term scale. It’s slow to grow. And we grow together.

Soulmates seem to recognize each other, there is a sense of ‘knowing you before’ or you may hit it off instantly. This is because the soul is remembering and triggering the human’s memory. Soulmates connect on deeper levels and may even tap into each other’s consciousness. Things between soulmates can be intuitive. That’s the soul connection, again.

Life partners are more like a cheerleader and supportive, having less egotistical notions. Life partners arrive at that moment in your life when there is self-love and self-acceptance. They do not arrive to fulfill any void in you as you have already filled that void with your own self-love.

Soulmates may come from a similar background but shake you up and show you where you need to heal, what changes you need to make in your life, possibly to prepare you for meeting your life partner.

Life partners may bring different experiences to the relationship which serve to enhance the connection. There is an ease to the relationship and a desire to learn more about each other. 

It is indeed possible that a soulmate can become a life partner. Plus, it is possible a relationship with a life partner may develop a spiritual connection over time. (I know, it’s confusing.)

Soulmates are established prior to incarnation; some believe we choose our life partner, while others believe that, too, is pre-ordained.

So, a soulmate is not necessarily our “other half.”

That is believed to be our Twin Flame, which is a whole different type of connection altogether.