I may come off as superficial and shallow in this post, but I'm
learning not to care what others think of me. So, I don't care if you
think I am superficial and shallow.
After a
recent post, a reader asked what a man has to be like in order to pique
my physical interest. And that got me thinking about my two
relationships. Because neither of them did, at first.
It's
funny, but after they both ended, people told me they expected my
partners to be somewhat different, that neither of them looked like what
they expected my partner to look like, that we didn't look like we
belonged together so I must have seen something deeper in them. To which they gave me credit.
Maybe that's what the problem was. We didn't even look like we belonged together. And maybe what I thought was deeper, wasn't deep enough for me.
In
the three years I've been single, I have been reflecting on the
mental/spiritual/chronological/emotional/financial qualities I'm looking
for in a boyfriend/potential husband, and maybe I haven't considered the
physical attraction enough.
So, this time, I'm going to pay more attention to it.
To that end....
I
want my boyfriend to be hot like....Ben Cohen. Ben is a British rugby
player who is taking a stand against bullying with his Stand Up
Foundation. He was recently asked to participate in Britain's version of
Dancing with the Stars, and was quoted as hoping for a male partner. I love his
attitude, his muscles, and the fact that this openly straight man is so
comfortable with himself only adds to his sexiness. But, his heterosexuality,
as well as his wife and
daughters, are major drawbacks to our getting together. I'm not a home-wrecker.
Or,
I want my boyfriend to be hot like.....Brian Sims. Brian is the first
openly LGBT person to be elected to the House of Representatives in Pennsylvania.
He has recently introduced legislation to ban conversion therapy against
minors in Pennsylvania and has previously introduced marriage equality legislation. One of Rep. Sims' most famous quotes came after a discussion in April, 2013 on abortion when he said to the Speaker of the House, "Each of us put our hand on the Bible and swore to uphold the
Constitution. We did not place our hands on the Constitution and swear
to uphold the Bible." Some
drawbacks to our getting together would be my unwillingness to relocate to
Pennsylvania; ironically, my first partner's home state, as I hear the winters
are a bitch. And I'd be in the spotlight as a State Representative's
boyfriend, potentially campaigning for his elections. I'm a bit more shy and reserved than that role would require. And as he's even younger than
my ex, that puts him on the AI list (Age Inappropriate), which I might
be able to overlook, just maybe not those Pennsylvania winters.
It seems I tend to be drawn to muscly, bearish masculine men, who also come off as genuine nice guys. Yet, I have found myself attracted to men
who weren't quite as muscly or as bearish. (I'm not talking about my
past partners here. Neither were muscly or bearish at all.) What drew
me to the not-as-muscly/bearish men was their intelligence, their
passion, their confidence. And yes, I did think they were handsome.
So,
now you know. I'm superficial and shallow. But, I have been drawn to a
man for a variety of reasons other than his looks; intelligence, passion, creativity,
confidence, compassion, to name a few. And all of those added to his
overall attractiveness. But, this time I will pay a bit more attention to 'a
hotness factor' in addition to those other qualities of what I want in a
partner. After all, I think I deserve a partner I could salivate over
and who piques a bit more than my brain. I want him for a little more of
the whole package, not just for his own package.
And not just because he shows an interest in me.
That's not superficial, is it?
I think it's only natural.
For more information on Rep. Sims, click here.
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